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I received this letter while I was in rehab. The only reason why I was in the Betty in the first place was to save my marriage. It didn’t work because she already had a BF I didn’t know about.
I could have left, but chose to stay. There were some interesting cats there. I spent my time writing and getting to know the residents. Shit, I even became the “Granny” of Dupont Hall.
I spent my 35th birthday there and a Christmas.
I steamed this open with an iron, had somebody copy it for me, re-sealed it and “Return to Sender’d” it.
To this day she doesn’t know I even read it.
December 18th 2002
Dear Dave,
I hope the letter finds you well. From your calls and mail, it sounds like you are benefitting from the program. I wanted to let you know that I have been dating a man I met through work, not a Microsoft employee. He is a good guy and very respectful of my family situation and our kids.
The kids are aware that I have dated him, but view him primarily as a friend.
The reason I am writing is because I didn’t want you to hear about it from the kids before we could talk in person. I also thought it would be a good idea for you to have some time to process while you are down there in a supportive environment.
His name is Craig Rhodes. He is a consultant at one of my accounts. He is a divorced father of one little girl. He is very decent and we are handling things totally appropriately.
I truly hope you will not put the children in the middle and discuss our personal lives in front of them. It is very important they see us able to respect each other and get along. I’m sure you can remember how damaging it was to hear you Dad disparage your Mom.
I would like to know your plans when you are back. I want to move ahead with filing a parenting plan and property settlement.
We have not had any movement on the house. I am open to any thoughts you have.
I will always care deeply about you and wishing you happiness and health – for you and our kids. I know we have a difficult time ahead, but I am committed to handling it as agreeable as possible and will try hard to be sensitive to your feelings.
Kristin.
